Dealing with Cancer in the Family · Thoughts and More

A Smile that Reached his Eyes

I had missed him.

I hadn’t realised until I saw it.

A Smile

His smile.

He smiled and he meant it

Really meant it.

He smiled and it filled his whole face

He smiled and it reached his eyes

He laughed at a little joke and the laugh was involuntary,

Not a planned reaction to something he knows should be funny.

A fleeting moment when he looked relaxed, at ease, truly enjoying himself.

I hadn’t seen it for such a long time.

He’s been here but not, present

His mind elsewhere, on other things, other worries, other thoughts

Never completely in the moment.

Consumed with concentrating on just getting through

Getting through chemo, getting through resting, to feeling not as bad.

I wasn’t sure about a break from treatment at first.

It was working, it was the thing that was giving him more time

The thing that was slowing it, the cancer, down.

But it was taking its toll.

It was becoming the thing that was killing him.

His body taking longer to recover, needing help, with blood transfusions and injections, to get just well enough for more chemo, but never well.

Chipping away his happiness

Wearing down his spirit

It was breaking him.

Stopping him from enjoying things

From wanting to do anything.

He was getting lost.

The laughter was there but not as loud or as often

The jokes didn’t come as easily

We were weighted down by it all.

It, cancer, was trying to steal more than it already had.

I knew then, the break was a good idea

It was needed

Wanted.

A break from appointments and blood tests and a treatment that takes everything good away.

We know it means the tumours will keep growing

That the pain in his back may get worse and more pain medication may be needed.

But this break is too important

I will not allow it, bastard cancer, to take everything we are away from us.

I want him to feel normal again

I want him to be able to really taste food again

I want him to be able to think a bit more clearly

I want him to be present in the memories we are making

I want him to look forward to what we have planned

To really enjoy the moment

To live the best life we can.

I am prepared to gamble with time

So he can feel, something, again.

Willing to take the risk

Because I have already noticed a difference

Because I would rather have him with me, us, feeling happiness

Experiencing joy

The person I have always known

As the people we have always been

His soul whole

With us in the light

For as long as that may mean.

Than for longer

But broken

Existing in darkness.

7 thoughts on “A Smile that Reached his Eyes

  1. You are an absolute inspiration and im sure your husband thinks that too. Thinking of you all at this very difficult time. Keep fighting the fight xx

  2. What a strong woman, you and your family are sooo brave your blogs are inspiring to anyone going through this awful experience – inspiration

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